Dating Single Parents

I really admire single parents, with all the hardships in their life; they are still able to endure all of it. For their children, they are able to suck up everything that life has thrown at them. But single parents are humans too, with emotions that people usually feel. They also long for love and affection not only from their children but also from other people as well. They also long for a companion who would grow old with them. So for single parents to go on dates is not a distant reality.

First question about dating single parents is if it is right and proper for them to go on dates. In my opinion, there is absolutely nothing wrong about it. They are single anyway. Plus everybody needs love and a partner in life, it is just sad if society will dictate it for them to be lonely all their life. They also have the right to be happy and be with somebody else who could support them in their life aside from their children.

Raising a family is also hard if you are the only one answering and supporting the family’s needs. As the saying goes, “it takes two to tango”, you will really need a partner to help you raise your family well. Life is hard to face when you are all alone.

Let’s face it, when the kids grow up they will have their own families and eventually move out. That is why it is perfectly of for single parents to date. People should not think that what they are doing is immoral because they are doing it for themselves and the children.

It is really hard for a single parent to find a partner that would easily accept them, there past and there present situation. Some even view them as immoral people because of certain factors. They tag single moms with immorality because of the early pregnancy, or that they got pregnant before they got married. Single dads are often looked at as irresponsible men or a cheater that is why their partners left them. But of course, there are so many outside factors that deal with that. Those are just some of the examples how society looks at single parents. 

In reality, single parents are hardworking and responsible people that are able to fend for their kids even if they are the only one supporting the family’s financial needs. It is just sad how they degrade them. People should not be judged because of the mistakes they have committed in the past.

For those who would look at single parents with an open mind and get to know them better, they would realize that these people are very responsible. They have dealt with almost all problems they could possibly encounter and overcame it. Single parents would be a very great partner because they are very mature and have different views on things. I really wish that these single parents would date and find a mature and responsible partner to help them in forming a new, strong and normal family.

If you are already dating a single parent, there are some issues you will have to deal with. The biggest issue that you will encounter is dealing with his/her children. When you are dating a single parent, it is as if you are also dating his/her own children. As you start to accept him or her as a person, you should already have first accepted the fact that the person that you love is already a parent. And that by loving him or her, you should already love the children.  Dating and having a relationship with a single parent is like a package, you already have an instant family.

For starters, you will have to get the trust of the person you want to have a relationship with. I guess you have to prove to him or her that you are mature, responsible and will be loving to his or her children. Once that is done and you are maintaining a relationship, you will have to get the trust of his or her children.

Dating Meeting A Single Parents Children

Meeting A Lover’s True Love: Dating and Meeting A Single Parent’s Children

Dating and meeting a single parent’s children can cause tension and nervousness between a new couple. A lot of expectations need to be set as this is not a conventional relationship. One person has no strings attached, while the other person has a huge string attached – a child. The person dating a recently single parent needs to be open and understanding as well. The person needs to understand that there are responsibilities involved, such as defensive feelings from children, as well as comparisons between the new person and the old spouse.

Dating is a combined feeling of excitement, nervousness and anticipation. Added to meeting a single parent’s children double these combined feelings for both you and your partner.  The question is, what are the “nice to knows” in dating and meeting single parent’s children?

On Dating
1)  Make sure that the previous relationship has no more to do’s- Studies have shown that the  feeling of being treated as a “rebound” is common when dating a single parent. This is because these newly single parents look for partners as soon as possible, to replace the feeling that they had with their own partners. Being the date, a person needs to make sure that there are no more strings to be addressed in the previous relationship of the single parent.

2)  Make sure to complement your date of his looks – Newly single parents invest on their looks to be able to boost their confidence. They enhance their looks by coloring their hair, trying on new make-up, experimenting on different scents or losing excessive pounds to prepare themselves on being available in the market again. Complimenting them on how they look will definitely boost their confidence and make your date more open to feedback.

3)  Manage expectations that you are different from the previous one- Comparisons are the main reasons for fights between a new single parent and his/her respective date. A newly single parent can either look for a date who has similar characteristics, or look for a date that is entirely different from his previous relationship. New dates need to make sure that he/she is different from the previous one.

4)  Maintain a non-sexual relationship with your date at the early stages of the relationship. Be open to the fact that your relationship can either work or not work. Having a sexual relationship may complicate things, most especially if your date has a child.


On Meeting a Single Parent’s Child/ren
1)  Understand that there are established routines already – When a single parents lets you meet his/her children for the first time, make sure to understand that there are routines already, and the child/ren see you as a threat to these routines. Just make sure to let them feel that you will not do anything to their routine.

An example is the weekly breakfast routine. When your partner brings you for this routine for the first time, the children will see you as a distraction who will soon take away their weekly routine.

2)  Delay the sleep-over– Children today are different in the way they think. Sleeping over connotes sexual relations, even if there is none between the two of you. Try postponing the sleep-overs when you feel that the children have accepted you already.

3)  Encourage your partner to separate dating and parent time – Ask your partner to separate dating and parent time. This will not compromise both of your feelings and avoid unnecessary tension.

4)  Be open to the fact that you will be introduced when your relationship has long-term potential. –Newly single parents will introduce you to their family if they see that what you have can escalate to a long-term commitment. If you are not yet introduced to his family, give it time.

These are just simple tips to help you out in the phenomenon of dating and meeting a single parent’s child/ren.  These tips can go a long way in maintaining a possible relationship between you and your partner.